I was called the cut-off guru today
To be honest, I'm not a "guru". I just have a lot of experience with relationships and friendships. I don't let anybody play with me. I respect myself and I demand others to do the same or there is no space for them in my life. I know my worth, I know my value, I have integrity, character and standards. So people know that if I allow someone to come around me there are requirements. I have very low tolerance for anyone disturbing my peace or not reciprocating the same love.
Now, If someone's showing you how they feel about you, believe them. If they're telling you that your friendship means nothing to them, it's time to take a step back from that relationship. However, when it comes to me, there is no taking a step back. I'm simply just going to cut you off. People are too grown to not realize what they're doing to someone else. They know, they just want to see how long you're going to allow them to get away with their behavior. Don't be that person that continues to accept the short end of the stick.
Sometimes it can be hard deciding when to cut someone off or when to cut yourself off because sometimes you just don't know if it's the right thing to do. Remember a person who values you would never put themselves in a position to lose you. So F.I.Y first love yourself. Others will come next. Above all else, cherish your PEACE and don't allow anyone to disturb it.
Vibration, energy and being on the same page are so important in friendships if you're not on the same page with someone, it will take more effort than it should to stay connected. One up each other, toxic behavior that makes you feel like you all are always competing or trying to outdo one another? You don't need any of that in your life! Peace and value are two things you can offer to each other that will, strengthen your friendships and make them more valuable than ever before! Pain can be a motivator for change, but so too can understanding that there's something better waiting for you if you just let go of what isn't working in your life right now so that you can move forward peacefully.
Never force any connections, if someone doesn't see the value in having you a part of their life don't you dare try to convince them, just move on and only put energy into people that reciprocate. You can never get someone to love you by loving them more and sometimes we give what we want to receive thinking they will appreciate that but instead they abuse it until you're no longer blind to their behaviors and then all of a sudden to them, you're the villain. During this season in your life know the difference between who to cut off and who to be patient with is everything.
At the end of the day make yourself a priority. You are your longest commitment. No one will give you what you don't give yourself. Love, respect, peace, happiness. How you treat yourself will show others how to treat you.
This hit me in some many places, and this was in 2022. I felt every word. Definitely moving forward.